Jersey

I knew this girl was trouble right from the get go. First of all, who gives themselves the nickname Jersey? Do people really want to be named after that place? And this was way before that whole Jersey shore disease started spreading around the world. I just never got the glamour Jersey got.

But regardless, this girl told me when I met her that people called her Jersey. I should have waked away right there.

I met this chick through a friend. Who I met her through should have told me everything I needed to know about what type of person I was dealing with. I just wish I had this type of clarity back then, I would have never gone through such an ordeal.

My friend Danny's girlfriend Yenly was in a sorority and they were in some sort of dance competition that was being held at Busch Gardens. Sorority chicks, dancing and the eventual after party at a house or bar? Sign me up! Danny invited us for the same reason. He enjoyed being around a slew of beautiful women just as much as the next guy. Me, Gonzalo and Steven were all going to go, but in our usual fashion we were going to make as big of a mockery of the situation as possible. We bought poster board and were planning on bringing signs with Yenly's name on it to taunt and pretend that we were cheering for her, but it would have been in ridicule. we knew that Yenly was the type of person who even knowing the signs were a mean of poking fun at her and her sorority, she would have embraced the signs. We decided that her inflated ego did not need to be pumped up anymore.

As it usually turns out, my two compadres backed out at the last second. I did not have anything better to do for the rest of the day, so I went along and joined Danny. They were having this little competition in the huge theater where that holds all those fancy shows. I found Danny, who was easy enough to find. He was surrounded by beautiful women. I sat next to him and he started introducing me to some of the lovely ladies. One of them just happened to be Jersey. We got to talking a whole lot during the competition. She was cute, sure. She was one of the smaller girls, which was right up my alley. I thought the nickname was cute at the time. You see how naive I was back then? Someone calling herself Jersey should have thrown up the red flags right from the get go.

The show ended and all the girls were antsy to get some drinks in them. Danny and Yenly told me that all of them were meeting up at one of the local bars around the area. Since we all were driving separate cars, they assured me they would see me there and told me to follow Jersey there. Well guess what happened? Danny calls me up right when I am pulling into the parking lot and tells me he decided not to go to the bar after all.

Weeeeeeeeeeeee!

One thing I do not do is go to bars or clubs stag. I hate being alone, in every sense of that statement. I am always accompanied by a friend whenever I do anything. Needless to say, not having anyone here made me extremely nervous. Not only was I completely alone now, but I hardly knew any of these girls. Usually girls pay me no attention if I am by myself. I was nearing panic mode, but I saw Jersey walk in. I found some of the last remnants of confidence left in me and I followed quickly behind.

The two of us continued where we left off at the Busch Garden theater. We talked, we drank, we danced, we even took some pictures together. All in all, we had a pretty good time together. We sat in a corner of the bar and just talked for a good hour or so. The night ended nicely enough. We were a little tipsy and all of a sudden the cops showed up in the parking lot. We scampered off to our cars. I gave her a soft kiss on the cheek and got her number. I figured it to be one of my more major accomplishments of recent memory. Not just because I got a girls number, but because I did it all alone. It was a first for me.

After that things soured as usual. Try as I could I could never get Jersey to meet up with me for a date or anything. I invited her over for my birthday party, but she never came. I figured she, just like every other girl I ever tried to get with, found somebody else, because that was the end of it all. I never got any rhyme or reason why, but Danny did mention that this particular girl was a tad trifling and she was the type to talk to numerous guys at the same time. That about did it for me and Jersey.

Once again I could not figure out where I went wrong. What did I do that messed things up with this girl? Why can't I ever close a deal? Where was that one special girl for me? I was tired of chasing a dream. I was tired of being treated like dirt. I never treated any girl with disrespect, and I did not deserve to be treated as such. I was over it all.

Our paths would once again cross, but at a much later date. It was something of a chance meeting too. I had not talked or thought about this girl in quite some time, but my string of bad luck with women was as bad as ever. Me and the guys were at a club for something that dealt with Yenly's sorority. I was pounding drinks at the bar when Danny mentioned that Jersey was on the other side of the Island bar and that she had been staring at me for awhile now.

I was completely over this chick by this time, and I had no intentions of going over and seeing her, but when I did glance over in her direction I could tell that me ignoring her was bothering her. So, I kept on ignoring her. I couldn't even begin to fathom how many times I called her and got no answer or call back. I was not about to inflate this girl's ego any further. She stayed on her side of the bar, and I stayed on mine. I had a great time, it was apparent that she was not.

By the end of the night she actually text me saying that she knows I noticed her sitting there by herself and wanted to know why I had not gone over and said hi to her. At this point I felt vindicated for some reason. I went over to her and performed some sort of small talk. My attraction to her had long since left, but I threw out the obligatory, "It was good seeing you again. I will call you," line.

I didn't mean it, and I am sure she knew it also.

But i know that I will think twice before messing with another jersey girl from that point on.